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Nov. 9, 2021

The Baby Blues with Samantha Sutton of Be Brave Mama

The Baby Blues with Samantha Sutton of Be Brave Mama

In this episode of Naked Talk with Jess, we are chatting with Samantha Sutton of Be Brave Mama.

Samantha discusses recognizing the “Baby Blues” and gives resources to reach out to.

Highlights:

  • Baby Blues happen to almost every woman -  You are not alone 
  • Hormones shift massively  after childbirth
  • Postpartum Depression and Postpartum Anxiety - Know the difference
  • Resources to reach out to for help after childbirth

Referenced episodes can be found here: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1772215/9178449

Be Brave Mama website - https://www.bebravemama.com

Email: bravemama@bebravemama.com

Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/bbravemama

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bbravemama/

Postpartum freebie Link:https://samanthasutton927.lpages.co/sex-while-postpartum-breastfeeding

Allie Casazza - rhythms for simplicity - https://www.instagram.com/allie_thatsme/

Jammie Baker - dressing your postpartum body + the "momiform" - https://www.instagram.com/jammiebaker_/

Robin Long - The Balanced Life - at home pilates workouts - https://www.instagram.com/thebalancedlife/

 

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Transcript
Jess:

Hey, y'all welcome back to naked. Talk with Jess podcast. I am here with Ms. Samantha. Setton. She's all things. Birth, all things, baby. If you have not heard our other episodes, go check them out. We have painful penetration after childbirth. breastfeeding and sex. And today we're going to talk about the baby blues. lots of good stuff in this episode. So let's get started. Welcome back, Samantha, how are you?

Samantha:

So good. Thank you for having me.

Jess:

Thank you for being on here. The work you're doing is so needed and it is so helpful, like we shared in our other episodes taboo topics, right? Sex, breastfeeding babies, all the things we need to talk about these things before we're actually. them and feel really just comfortable to communicate. About these things with our partner. So thank you for all that you're doing for the moments out there.

Samantha:

Thank you. I hope it's helping everybody that's listening.

Jess:

So let's talk about baby blues that share a little bit, that something you hear about, it's kind of, oh, you know, baby blues, what, what are, what are baby blues? What does that mean? When. hearing that term.

Samantha:

baby blues is this happens to almost every woman after having a baby where there's vaginal or because it's to hormones, those darn hormones again. Yeah. After you have your baby, your hormones shift massively, like as soon as the placenta is delivered. so this change can kind of send you into these. Very drastic mood swings and often, well that in conjunction with, you know, sleep deprivation and suddenly you have a new baby, and it's really overwhelming learning, like all the things to take care of this baby. And, you know, your relationship has shifted with your partner and you have a whole new like daily life. So all of these things can lead to you know, strong emotions. So a lot of women find themselves very weepy. Some of them find themselves very angry anxious. There are different levels of this, you know, baby blues is very common and you tend to come out out of it. pretty early in your postpartum. Days, like, you know at least by three months. But it can also be something more serious. It could be postpartum depression or postpartum anxiety. And knowing the difference is the key to knowing you need to ask for more help or how to manage those.

Jess:

And that goes back to. What we talk about a lot here on naked talk with Jess podcast is the mental health and taking the stigma away and just the taboo of things. We, we talk about, you know, different things like PTSD or mental health and, and just a hesitancy to reach out for help. Out of fear of being judged or, or being I guess having a consequence in some way, that's in a negative, negative light. I think the more we talk about that, the better it is, and to let people know that, you know, you're not alone. I know you've mentioned that to me before, as we're talking through things. know, we want these women to know, like you're not the only one, right? If you think you are, yep, Nope. Someone's going through it or they have gone through it. and a lot of times people think, well, no one I know has gone through it. Well, maybe they're just not, maybe they're in the same boat and they're just not to open up as well. So share with our listeners real quick so that you said PPD and PPA. what are those two things stand for?

Samantha:

So PPD is postpartum depression PPA is postpartum anxiety, which is also very common, but less people know about it. A lot of people have heard of postpartum depression. Yeah. Okay. So these are all like hormonal Things that you can have after having your baby.

Jess:

Yeah. And I've had a guest on in the past, Dr. Chase banks, and we talk about not, not, pregnancy or postpartum specifically. we talk about hormone health and that's another reason. It's so important to really be an advocate for your health. a lot of times you might go through these changes, not be aware of them and maybe we're not doing things. That we can on the natural side as well, because Hey, food affects our mood. the gut brain connection. If you're going through something and these things are out of whack, it's going to exaggerate those things. So it's so important to really look at your life holistically. You know your sleep, your nutrition, all of these things affect your hormones. And then that in turn, like you said, affects your mood. So I had never heard of the, the PPA. So thank you for sharing that.

Samantha:

Yeah.

Jess:

So what would you say. Yes, it's the hormones. What's another reason that you see that, that a client might tell you that. notice that they're experiencing this.

Samantha:

so conjunction with the hormone fluctuations that are happening you know, all the things with having a new baby, so lack of sleep, which can affect your room as negatively. The just feeling of overwhelmed with how it is to take care of a newborn. And then, you know, your dynamic with your partner has probably shifted. So you might be feeling disconnected from your partner or just trying to figure out your new role as a mom. And you know, your postpartum body is probably going to be a little bit you know, of an adjustment for you, so realistic expectations for that. And you know, just changing your mindset. If you're not feeling sexy or not feeling. In love with your new body. Like how can you feel, you know, good, good about yourself again, because you just did this amazing thing. And you definitely deserve to feel like a goddess instead of, know, getting down on yourself. So,

Jess:

and I think something that in our breastfeeding and sex episode we addressed is that. If you're not communicating, or if you don't know how to communicate with your partner and sex, isn't feeling good or it's not the same, then that is another thing that is affecting you as well. So now you have your hormones and maybe this relationship, you're not feeling as sexy. maybe you have conflict maybe. You know, at times with your partner, because you're not understanding how to communicate about sex. all these things can really start piling on and affect that. What about, I know for, for me and in my situation, If you haven't listened to episode one, I share a little bit of my story there, but I actually left. My relationship when my oldest daughter was 10 months old and I was pregnant at the time with my second daughter. About, I would say three and a half months, but I didn't know because I was still breastfeeding. You. I mean, I was breastfeeding. First time having a baby and I just didn't know I was pregnant. as you can imagine, that obviously was a very stressful time. so here I am with the, you know, a new book, you know, a 10 month old and then pregnant breastfeeding my 10 month old. And I basically left with $50 in my baby. So I ended up being homeless for a short time, then moved in with a family member. But I didn't have any of that support. So what would you say? I mean, I would think at the time I didn't looking back. I didn't realize because your main focus is just keeping this little thing alive, you know? I couldn't see it, but my family could. I remember my brother saying he thought I'd had cancer or something. And then you know, someone's home. I think she has, you know, postpartum. But I had all these things going on, so I couldn't even, I, it was everything I could do just to get out of bed and then nurse the baby and, deal with, you know, my pregnancy. So, what would you say to that listener who, you know, it may not be that extreme of a case. But, you know, that's kind of extreme thinking about it now. Wow. But but just doesn't have that support. Maybe, maybe you're a single mom or maybe something's happened with your partner or they're just checked out. Yeah. I would think that would be a big reason for that too. just that lack of support. know for me, I reached out to my mom and my family and a group of ladies at my church. And that's what kind of helped me. So what would you say to that, you know, quiet that would come to you and they're like, oh, well, you know, I don't have that other partner in my life.

Samantha:

So definitely if you, if you do have a partner, that's the person you need to communicate with the most on like every, everything that you're experiencing and just having that open communication on what is it that you need that can help you feel, you know capable of like to your new role. But if you don't. who is your village? And I reach out to them because you're having this struggle, then chances are someone else in your circle has also, so ask for help and they are, they're going to step up and they're going to help you. And if you're really feeling like you don't have even a village. Then there are so many like resources out there for women like single moms that, that helps support you. And we can. Like list all of that in the show notes.

Jess:

Yeah, for sure. And I know that you'd mentioned in an earlier episode that you had a resource. was it on your Instagram or your link tree where there's things you can fill out or to kind of assess if that is, is something that you might need to take a step further?

Samantha:

Yeah. So if you feel like you might be having like postpartum depression or anxiety, like beyond the baby blues there is a checklist, a free resource on my website that you can. Like download to your phone or just print out help you determine like where you think you fit in those categories and then resources on where you would go from there.

Jess:

And then if. Obviously you're, you're a great resource and I encourage you if you're listening and you are in those stages of either prenatal, baby postpartum to contact Samantha, because if she cannot help you, she will definitely guide you in the right direction. and that's in anything involved with that, but for sure this you can talk to her, she can guide you and make sure you have what you need. Are there a few resources that you would want to share? I know you had mentioned someone on Instagram that really helped you a few people. Yeah. So I'm bringing it back a little bit from the extremes of, you know, single moms with postpartum depression. If you're just like you know, a new mom, you know, you have support, but you're just trying to figure out your new role as a mom, or if you're feeling overwhelmed. There are some things that you can do to try to create rhythms in your life that will help make your day-to-day life easier. And if you're feeling just, you know, not into your postpartum self, you don't feel sexy. You don't feel like your old self then there, there are ways that you can change your mindset on that also. So. you're not feeling sexy, the main thing you want to do is just the body that you have now, not the body that you had before. You're not the same person that you were before. You're, you're a new woman and that and dressed for who you are today. So someone that. I found on Instagram. That's really, she has an excellent. Tool that she calls the mama form and that's Jamie baker she can help you learn how to dress your body for your specific body type. also you know, just. What really works for moms, especially new moms. The other. A tool that I want to mention for, if you're feeling overwhelmed or just you know, bogged down by your day to day life as a new mom, with all the things that you have to do, you know, you're not just taking care of your baby and keeping this little personal life. also have to do the laundry and clean the kitchen and do all the other things to take care of the home. With that. person that I've learned from is Allie Kasasa. And she teaches about minimalism and just rhythms to help moms with their daily life. So rhythms, for example, would be like instead of like a routine or a schedule. It's just something that you kind of incorporate into your daily life. So like with laundry, Wake up in the morning and start a little laundry. And then at some point throughout the day, Yeah. You put it in the dryer and then at some other point you do the laundry and fold it, but it's always the same. So you wake up, you start the laundry and then when you have lunch, you put it in the dryer. And then when you have dinner after dinner, you fold the laundry. So it's just like something you do every day. you're so used to it that you don't have to think about it anymore. I can still do I need a problem? Like that now. And I'm 17 years into this gig. Yeah. Yeah. Well, those are, those are great. And I just want to leave a suggestion too. I have several friends. Who've had recently, actually, and I know one of them, the in-laws gave her the gift of someone to come and take care of the baby at night. And one was a house cleaning. And I think even you would be a great gift, you know, but for those listening, maybe you're, you're not the, all things, birth, all things, baby stage, but you know, someone who is this. This is a great gift to give somebody

Samantha:

on my, on my website, I'm going to have you know, a mama network where you can find postpartum doulas, which are the women who come take care of the baby. I'm going to have a laundry service that delivers the laundry to your home. So anything that you might need, if you're in these stages of life.

Jess:

You'll be able to find those resources on my website. Yeah. And put that on your baby shower list. You know, I mean, it's something that will really help. So. All right. Well, thank you so much, Samantha. I'm gonna have you on here hopefully really soon, because there's so much we can talk about for all of this. Thank you for sharing your time. Let us know how we can contact you. Because if you are in one of these seasons, you need to contact Samantha so she can you and give you the resources that you need. So how can we contact you? Samantha.

Samantha:

Right. So I'm really active on Instagram. So that's to find me it's at the letter, be brave mama. So at be brave mama. And then my website is www dot, be brave mama.com. And that one is all spelled out.

Jess:

well, thank you so much. And I will talk to y'all next time. Bye. Thanks for having me.