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Sept. 23, 2021

Cannabis & Sex with TheCannaBoss - Marlies Fitch Ledbetter

Cannabis & Sex with TheCannaBoss - Marlies Fitch Ledbetter

In this episode of Naked Talk with Jess, we are chatting with, Marlies Fitch Ledbetter, the owner and founder of the Indie Hemp Company.  

Marlies discusses the use of Cannabis and how it can improve and enhance the sexual experience.    

Highlights:

  • Cannabis was originally mentioned in the Chinese Pharmacopoeia as an aphrodisiac.  
  • Cannabis can relax the emotional state - allowing for the participants to feel relaxed enough to reciprocate and accept the love they are receiving during the sexual experience. 
  • Helps partners become better connected
  • Aids in lowering Cortisol levels from outside stressors that keep us from being fully present and relaxed with our partner

Referenced previous episodes can be found here:

The History of Cannabis with TheCannaBoss - Marlies Fitch Ledbetter

Links mentioned in today’s show:

Marlies Fitch Ledbetter - Indie Hemp Company

https://www.indiehempco.com

Follow Marlies on Instagram

@thecannaboss_marlies

Indie Hemp Company

Email: marliescbd@gmail.com

Address: 9910 Valance Way

Conroe, TX  77385

Phone: 832.671.312

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Transcript
Jess:

Hey, y'all welcome back to naked talk with Jess podcast. We are back today with Marlies we have been talking all things cannabis, and we're going to keep on going, if you have not listened to first episode, she goes into the history of cannabis. All the endocannabinoid systems, all the science-y stuff. And even more than that so this time buckle up buttercup, because we're going to talk cannabis and sex. Marlies welcome to the naked talk with Jess podcast again. How are you?

Marlies:

I'm really good. And I'm excited about to talk about this topic because I do not hold back. When I, when I think about sex and our relationships with our partners. Yes. I love, you know, I'm part of the free love. guess. Yeah, long ration of people now. And it's such a beautiful herb. To utilize in your sexual health. But there's just so much more to that in the science as well.

Jess:

So Marlies and I know each other personally. And, this was actually the first thing that came to our mind when we talked. Gosh, was that 2019? I think. Yeah. You know, a couple years ago, so really excited to talk about this because like many of the topics here on the show, it is taboo. Sex is taboo enough, which it shouldn't be. And we're, we're changing that now. But then you take cannabis on top of that and add it. So I want to just dive right in. Pardon the pun. And talk about just cannabis and sex. It's no secret that already have some disconnect right. In our sexual relationships. And I've talked to clients through the last 10 years that, are struggling with either their own sexual health or that. In a relationship. So share a little bit about how cannabis comes into play there and what are some ways that we can think about using cannabis to help with our sexual health

Marlies:

well, it was originally mentioned in the Chinese pharmacopeia as an aphrodisiac. So helping with, the sexual health stimulation, arousal even women's, you know, production of our nice, you know, juices and things like that. So we already know that it's beneficial now. How do you take it? How do you use it? What is it good for? legal in my area? No, those are all questions that we obviously get a lot and I haven't found as many studies as I would like on cannabis and sex. I think that's going to change as legalization changes and adult use is more predominant across the country, but let's look at CBD per you know, predominantly for here in Texas, as well as across the country, because it is legal everywhere. How that could play into sexual health for women specifically. But also for men. Yeah. So I have a article in front of me right now through the cannabis clinicians, which I am part of the society of cannabis clinicians, and I love getting access to all of their peer reviewed studies and clinicals and things like that. And I really love how it helps with they talk about emotional states. So if we think of CBD specifically or full spectrum cannabis, reducing cortisol levels, which is our stress hormone increasing serotonin and dopamine, even, levels of oxytocin. So like, let's say we have a better orgasm. We're going to have those floods of better receptors, better chemical releases in our body. and a lot of people walk away from not feeling, you know, adequate after sex but are they going into it with a good mindset? And so if we can relax that emotional state going in, so let's say the male or female partner female, female, whatever. The partner is right. when they go into it, are they feeling relaxed enough to reciprocate and accept the love that they're receiving during the sexual, experience? And so, you know, changing that emotional state and just giving it a new baseline is what I think is really important. where it goes into like taking CBD on a daily basis or taking full spectrum cannabis on a daily basis. As a medicine supplement will help balance those hormones. So that you're just naturally going to be less stressed about your. Sexual experience. I think also in a sense with recreational or adult use is you're going to have increased risk taking. Just like alcohol would probably make you feel a little bit looser. More excitable cannabis is going to do the same thing. And so, and being at a lot more safe and you don't have hangovers afterwards, and it only lasts a couple hours. This is really good for sexual pleasure because you're probably going to be a little bit more willing to do things that you probably hadn't been for. You know, we want to keep things fresh. You want to maybe try different positions as you get older. Some positions might not work anymore and just being a little bit more free. And I always talk about cannabis as being a very spiritual medicine. Because I feel more connected with my husband when we're both using cannabis, because we're able to talk about more things. We laugh more, we're more aroused by each other. We're not worried about things. And that state of mind is so healthy. It really is. If you think about it, not as an escape, but as deeper diving into each other's experience and recognizing each other's love making skills, right. Are what we need from each other. and then obviously touch sensation is higher. Both when your cortisol levels are lower you're just feeling that, you know, that touch and, more stimulated and then your physiology. So obviously your sexual organs are attached to the endocannabinoid system. And so you are going to have less menstruation pain. You're going to have better sexual health. Even they've seen links to fertility. And then in men we see libido increase in both female and male, but also if a male is having issues, getting an erection, typically that's because of blood pressure. And so there's something that's not sending the blood to the, to the organ correctly. So if we are able to lower blood pressure, which CBD is known to do relax the body a little bit more, we're going to send better oxygenation to the blood and the blood's going to flow better into the penis. And same to the clearest. So if you think about it, you're going to have longer sex, better sex, better orgasms, and, feel more spiritually connected to your partner as well. So, so many ways.

Jess:

It's so good. And I want to go back to what you were saying about yes. You might drink alcohol something that I've addressed. And I do want to, have a sober sex series. A lot of people say, well, just, I want to drink a little to lower my inhibitions and relax. However you get the negative effects of alcohol there. And I'm sure before when you're experiencing this, when you have a sexual experience with your partner, to be present? Absolutely. The point of it to have that intimate connection. So that intimacy that nothing can replace that intimacy in that sexual connection that you have that act of sex. Now you can go back and listen to my, I believe it was my love your Labia series. And I talk about, you know, there is so many more layers and levels to sex and penis and vagina penetration for sure. So when we say sexual experience, it can be a lot of things. you want to be present. You want to really do that. So I love that this is a way. Absolutely. And if you want to just relax more, maybe you can be quote unquote sober.

Marlies:

CBD doesn't make you high. And so if you're taking a legal CBD or let's say full spectrum cannabis product with low levels of THC, you're not going to feel stoned or high. So you're in no way, you know, you are part of that sober experience, but let's say, you know, your partner has back pain. And so they don't want to have sex because their back hurts or their stress, or we don't have time, or we have kids and we give all ourselves these excuses. Well, if we can address the root symptoms, and get to the cause. And what is keeping you from having that those experiences or better experiences with your partner? I think that cannabis in so many ways addresses that, cause we already know it attaches to our sexual organs, but more than that, our spiritual and our mental and just all of the things that are going into our day before, you know?

Jess:

Yes, you're having to now switch, you know, from all the stresses, maybe it was work or your business or kids, or just life right now. And so those things that can help us in a natural way do that. I'm all for, I love it. And. of times in a relationship you know, think like you were saying before, maybe we're worried, oh, we don't want to look like a freak or we don't want to, you know, our partner to think this or that. We need to get to a place in our relationship where we can start losing, those worries and those things. Because there is such a beautiful connection that takes place. For example, I've known my husband, over 20 years and we're at a place now the last couple of years where we know that we can be ourselves. I've said before, you know, a lot of times you have a married couple, they have children, homes, taxes, they have all these things together, we can't talk about sex. Right. You know? And so I love that you're doing that. And there's so much healing. I know that takes place in those relationships. So. I think it's a great way if you are listening and maybe you are that person who says I need to get a little tipsy or a little drunk for that maybe, get with Marlies do a consult and start thinking of other ways. Or like you said in a previous episode, there could be things underlying maybe emotionally that are there.

Marlies:

Emotional trauma there's. We have so many things in little lock doors and cabinets and trust. Inside of our body and our brain. And so when we're able to relieve that stressors meditation is really great. I highly suggest if your partner's open to it, to meditating before sex or talking through things and having a, just a really nice conversation openly, maybe talking about what you would like in your pleasure experience and what would they like. And sometimes there's a bit of give and take, but it definitely needs to be an open conversation and not something that you just roll over and do, because you feel like your partner needs it. You definitely want to make sure that your, both of your are. Being satisfied on both ends. But yeah.

Jess:

Yeah. And going back to when you were saying maybe. Before sex, you know, you're having to kind of switch, you know, you're busy, you've got kids, you're maybe you're limited on time, but all these things can be excuses. And next thing you know, you're putting this very, important part of your life relationship and your health to the side. Can you share a little bit about, I know in a previous episode you had said how it even helps hormones and different things like that. And we talk a lot on the naked talk with just podcast hormones, men, and women, and periods. How they can be painful, but they don't have to be. I know a lot of times clients will say that's you know, I just don't feel like having sex or, you know, my hormones are out of whack. Can you share just a little bit about how that comes into play?

Marlies:

So just like with stress is going to lower your sexual inhibitions. So we know already that CBD and cannabis can help, you know, Change and regulate the stress chemicals and the good hormones in the body, but also the endocannabinoid system directly accesses the endocrine system, which creates our hormones regulates. Our immune functions and things like that. And so when we think about how our hormones are out of whack, if you can take something that is going to help regulate your hormones, let's say you're premenopausal. And so you can reduce those symptoms or you are menopausal and you're having some drying issues or you're having just a lack of. I want have sex. That can definitely change. I've seen a lot of women with their mindset change on that. And so that student is to the hormone regulation. Now, when it comes to pain, there are different ways that you can take in cannabis. So we talked about, I don't think we really talked about that. So you can take it internally under your tongue you can inhale it. So mainly you want to make sure that when you're in. cannabis in any way that you're adding, adding it to the mucosa. So that's like your mouth tissue, your nasal passage, your vaginal passage, your anus. Those are all mucosal areas right there. They've got capillaries, they've linked right to the bloodstream. So these are great places to put cannabis. So most people take it under their tongue with me, or they eat an edible. And that goes right into the bloodstream because we do use nanotechnology, which is like 90% absorption, but we can get on at another time. But in you inhale it, it goes right into the bronchial tubes, right into the bloodstream. Right. But in the vaginal or anus area, you can use a suppository and you can go online. You can use any CBD product, as long as it doesn't have like cinnamon or orange in it that can burn, get a natural. Flavor that doesn't have anything in it. And you can add it to a suppository. You can make your own suppositories at home. They make molds, you can buy them on Amazon you just use like cocoa butter and you can, and you can put that in as well as a little tip that I love during period pain is you take a really clean, organic, new, non bleached tampon, and you soak the tip of it with CBD or cannabis oil, and you insert it. And that actually was found out by queen Elizabeth in the late 18 hundreds. She used to do that for her which they think she had endometriosis. Oh, wow. So that really helped her. And she used a rag back then, but now we have, you know, cleaner ways to do it. So that was really amazing. Anal suppositories as well, but using just, you know, you can use cannabis lubricants, you can use peppermint oil on your clearest or on his tip. You can put the CBD oil around. So if there is pain in that area, in the genital area, that'll reduce pain as well as to CBD topically or cannabis. Topically are so powerful because the most receptors you have in your body are located on your skin. And the skin attaches to the muscle tissue, nerve joint, and all of those like vascular areas. So if you think about it, they're all connected the same system and when CBD is sent through the receptors, it's sent on a sub cellular level. So when you're putting it on at your vaginal area of your penis, That is actually going into the tissue of your body so those are really, really helpful ways. then I notice a lot of women that are taking it as a supplement daily are able to reduce vaginal pain, contraction pain. And then we also noticed that with a lot of doulas that are using a, during childbirth to help expand the vaginal walls. And so they use hemp oil and CBD. So for the pain because it's an incredible healer topically. So I just really suggest, you know, there's so many creative ways to use it and obviously there's not everything out there on the internet. But in a consult, I can go over every possible way to use it. I've probably used it every way you could possibly use it. And just don't stick in your eyeballs.

Jess:

That's duly noted there. If you're listening and you want to get with Marlise for a consult, she is so knowledgeable and I really encourage you once again, to go check out the first episode with her, she really breaks down. All the history. And if you're, if you didn't listen to that yet, and you're thinking, oh, okay, well, what about, you know, Full spectrum or drug test. We go over all that in the first episode. But how can they reach you if they would like to do a consult?

Marlies:

My information is on my website, which is indie hemp co.com I N D I E H M P C O. That has my cell phone direct link. We have multiple medical facilities that we consult with. So those places will have our information as well. If you're a patient referral we have some urgent cares that we work with. And so we do get a lot of patients that are sent over by doctors and homeopaths. And then if you're on social, I'm on Facebook, I'm on Instagram heavily on Instagram. And the reason for that is because cannabis is not prohibited as much on Instagram platforms as much as Facebook. So you'll notice like a lot of my posts will not be seen by a lot of people on Facebook And I think everybody knows by now that things are being censored. And then we do have indie Hemp co YouTube channel. And you can watch me talk about maybe why CBD didn't work for you or how to properly dose, how to buy products. And then I have a very extensive cana blog. That's also located on my website.

Jess:

I love that. And I will put all the links to Marlies as resources the show notes. And I look forward to having you back soon. There's so much we can share about and thank you for just being a voice and an advocate for people to be able to be our own advocate for our health. And I really appreciate the work that you do.

Marlies:

Yeah. I mean, I might as well do all the research for people because it has a lot it's, it can be overwhelming and there's a lot of brands out there and there's a lot of misinformation. I just highly encourage you once you find a good clean brand that you just start don't, you know, don't keep asking questions, just begin because the amount of healing that's going to happen in your life utilizing this incredible plant that's been around for as long as humans have been alive, probably the first domesticated crop ever known to human history. we've been around cannabis for our entire existence. Stop saying why and say, why not?

Jess:

Ooh. Yes. I love that. And once again, go to a source that you trust. And that's so important. So I will make sure that I leave all the links and we can get them started on the right, path. And I will talk to y'all next time. Bye.